QAt the start of my end phase, if I have 4 remaining play points, can I recover 2 play points and draw a card before selecting a follower to destroy?

ANo. When an ability requires a selection, the selection must be made before you resolve the other effects in written order. In this case, before you draw a card or recover 2 play points, you must select an enemy follower (you may also select no enemy followers).

QIf I have multiple cards with an "At the start of your end phase" ability triggering, in what order do I resolve them?

AYou can resolve them in any order. When you proceed to your end phase, all "At the start of your end phase" abilities are triggered and become pending. Then, you can choose the order in which you resolve the pending abilities.

QI have this follower and a Deux Ex Machina on my field, and I have 0 remaining play points. At the start of my end phase, can I choose to resolve Deus Ex Machina's "recover 4 play points" ability first before resolving this follower's "recover 2 play points" so I have enough remaining play points to trigger this follower's "deal 2 damage to each enemy leader," "draw a card," and "select up to 1 enemy follower on the field and destroy it" effects?

AYes, you can. Note that your remaining play points can't exceed your maximum play points.